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The American Psychiatric Association has recognized Codependency as one of the many different types of personality disorders.
Codependency manifests itself in many forms but is especially serious and can be potentially life threatening if the person in the relationship who is trying to help (the “enabler” in the relationship) is involved in a relationship with someone who is seriously abusing alcohol or drugs (the “abuser” in the relationship).
The “enabler” in this dangerous type of relationship will often try to cover up or make excuses for the “abuser” in the relationship.
When we love and care about someone it is natural to believe that we can truly help them if we give them enough of our time and TLC (tender loving care). People who are codependent often don’t realize that their loved ones have lost the ability to choose and do what is the right over what is wrong anymore, because their addiction has become too powerful and overrides any help or TLC they are given by the codependent “enabler”. The most problematic codependency relationships are when the “enabler” actually is aware of the hold and control the alcohol or drugs has over their loved one but chooses to ignore it. The “enabler” does this because it feeds into the “enabler’s” own needs to be even further intertwined or enmeshed with the “abuser” by having them not get better, so the “abuser” too stays as equally dependent (codependent) as the “enabler” because they need them to always be there to catch them when they fall or to bail them out of trouble.
Professional codependency intervention is needed in both examples explained in the paragraph above for both the “abuser” who is unwilling to seek help or for the “enabler” who does not seek out treatment for the “abuser” because of their own dysfunctional reasons.
Even in the first example where the “enabler” wants the “abuser” to get help it is still recommended for both to be part of the codependency treatment because both lives are so enmeshed as a result of their codependency.
In the case where a whole family is affected, it becomes vital for the whole family to be involved at some point in the codependency treatment process to help everyone understand how codependency has negatively impacted all family members' lives.
Children who grew up in a family and witnessed someone abusing alcohol or drugs, or sexual, physical or emotional abuse, or chronic illness often develop codependency as a survival coping mechanism because of the extreme emotional pain that results from living in this type of environment.
Our certified professional interventionists are all very experienced and trained professionals who have helped people who are in the exact same situation that you are now in. They have seen and understand everything that you are going through from their past successful codependency interventions. They will take all the time you need to explain the whole process to you and answer any and all questions you might have about anything to do with codependency and will walk you though every step of the intervention process so you feel comfortable. As soon as you have all the information that you need, you will hopefully recognize the importance of acting sooner rather than later. Before your situation goes from bad to worse, schedule a codependency intervention with us.
After the codependency intervention (if you desire), we will remain with your loved one and personally escort and chauffeur them from the airport directly to our codependency workshop program where our friendly and caring staff will be waiting to warmly welcome them.
CODEPENDENCY INTERVENTION and the help you and your loved one need can only begin if you call us. We cannot call you.
Please call us 24/7 TOLL-FREE at 877-742-4376 to learn more about helping your loved one with an intervention for codependency.